For months I have had a burning desire bubbling within me. I had seen visions of it flash across my mind and strong inner impulses to take action towards it.
It was a desire speak. A yearning to speak to groups of beautiful women. To run gorgeous, soulful workshops. To bring the passion-fuelled inspiration within me, out. Out in to the world so I can share it.
But the problem has been that for as long as I can remember I have had a paralysing fear of being the centre of attention and speaking to groups. I avoid public speaking at all costs. It literally terrifies me.
And this is where my inner struggle (which mind you has been playing out for most of this year) began. On one hand there was an incredibly strong desire, but on the other there were the voices of my mind, telling me awful stories of failure and rejection and filling me with fear.
So, how did I manage to overcome this fear and take brave steps forward to follow what my heart was calling me towards? Today, I want to share my powerful process with you.
Make a new choice
For months I let that fear stop me, but one day I had to get honest with myself and realise I was choosing to let it stop me. And so to move beyond it, I had to make a new choice.
So, I decided to shift my perspective. I decided to open up to the possibility of running these events.
I decided to follow what my heart was saying, even though the fear voice was still there. I decided to stop letting that stop me. So, I went ahead any organised my event. The fear kept showing up and telling me to stop, but I just kept following through and putting one foot in front of the other. And then, last Friday I ran my first beautiful workshop on Living a Heart-Driven Life.
It wasn’t until I listened to the audio recording of the event, that I really began to grasp what I had done. I had sat in front of a group of women, with all of their beautiful eyes on me, and I spoke authentically and powerfully from my heart, for 2 hours – with no notes.
I have no idea how I did it.
And that is what happens when you live from your heart. Love takes over.
Let the fear be there
When the fear arises, just let it be there. We do not need to fight with it, resist it or try to make it go away. If what you are about to do takes you out of our comfort zone, it is likely that the fear is going to linger for a little while. So, just accept it.
Embrace your fear. Look at it front on. See it for what it is. It is just some yucky feeling, negative thoughts that are trying to protect you and keep them small. You don’t have to believe them.
Just because you feel fear, doesn’t mean anything has gone wrong. In fact it is the opposite. This is a great sign!
Allow the fear to be there and just keep moving forward.
Call in love
Fear is going to stack up a pretty good case. It will be very convincing in telling you all of the reasons why you can’t do something. It is sneaky, cheeky and oh so cunning. But we must remember that we have a choice whether or not we are going to believe it.
We can either choose to let the fear run the show, or we can choose something else. We can see the situation through a new perspective.
When we choose to see a situation with love, we invite in a more gentle, supportive and caring voice. We open up to our inner cheerleader and we let her empowering words flood our mind. We feel her love. We hear her guidance and we choose to listen to that over our limiting fearful stories.
Before my event, I kept tuning myself in by saying supportive words to myself over and over. “You can do this. I believe in you. You’ve got this Connie. Just show up and speak from your heart, beautiful. That’s all you need to do. I know you can do this”
Embody your heart energy
The energy of the heart is open, loving, whole and complete. It lacks nothing and feels no fear of losing anything. It has no need to self protect, to play small or hide. it feels safe being seen, expressing itself and shining it’s light.
When we drop in to our heart we see the world in a new way. We embody that loving energy and allow it to guide us moment by moment.
When I stepped up on to the stage at my event, I let go of worrying about what anyone thought or if I was going to make a mistake. I simply chose to open my heart and make the message I had to share with these women more important than any of my own self-centred thinking.
As I embodied the energy of my heart space, the thoughts in my mind slowly began to fall away. Sometimes that is all that is required. Drop in to your heart and the rest will take care of itself.
Stay in the present moment
Our mind loves to future trip and send us in to tailspins of anxiety over all of the things that could potentially go wrong in the future. Worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet (and may never happen) is not only a waste of your precious energy but it will only strengthen the power fear has in this situation.
In the days leading up to my event, I had to remain incredibly present. I didn’t think about the event. I just kept showing up for each moment of my life. And if a fearful thought suddenly rushed in, I reassured myself. “Just trust Connie. Everything will be fine. If ___ happens, you will deal with it then. Just bring your attention back to right now. Right now, you are completely safe and all is well. Just be here”
And then when the event came, I literally took it moment by moment. I didn’t get ahead of myself. I didn’t think about anything except where I was and what needed to be done in that moment.
Be willing to be vulnerable
Fear will try to protect us at all costs from looking silly, being rejected or making a mistake. So, it will train us to avoid situations where there is the potential risk of that happening. But when we build walls around our heart and hide ourselves away we miss out on so many precious and beautiful experiences in life.
In the days leading up to my event, my head was telling me I needed to plan what I was going to say, and to rehearse my words. It didn’t want me to forget a key point, fumble my words or be stuck with nothing to say at all. After all I had 2 hours of content to cover!
But on the day of the event my heart said “Stop!”I literally heard the words “Girlfriend all you need to do is just show up and speak from your heart. It doesn’t matter what you say. What matters is the space you come from when you say it”
And that is what I did. I threw out my notes. On the day of the event, I didn’t even think about my content. And when it came to the event, I just showed up with love in my heart and allowed the words to flow through me.
Was it terrifying? Yes. But was it one of the most powerful conversations I have ever shared in my life? Abso-freakin-lutely!
Are you ready to live from your heart?
In the Live a Heart-Driven Life Workshop I dive deeper in to all of these principles and give you practical ways to live them in your own life.
And guess what? You can grab your very own copy of the 2 hour audio recording of the event!
Many of us unknowingly block ourselves from receiving what we desire. We may hold beliefs, stories and fears that can actually energetically close us off from calling in what we want or cause us to sabotage our efforts.
In order to receive, we need to keep our energy aligned with what we want (tweet this)
We have to hold ourself in a space of feeling safe about receiving it, feeling deserving and worthy and having a sense of expectation that it is on it’s way to us.
We have to embody the energy of having it now and really integrate the energy of what we are wanting receive in to how we are feeling now, even before it arrives.
While it is wonderful and beautiful to be out in the world taking big, bold steps, you also need to balance that energy by being in a receiving space. This is more of an energy practice than an action practice.
In today’s VLOG I dive deeper in to this concept of receiving and I share 3 powerful steps to support you in clearing the blocks to receiving more.
1. Get really clear on what you want to receive or call in (and then stretch it so it is even bigger)
2. Notice what discomfort, fears, stories or resistance arise when you think of having it, and then clear them.
3. Feel the feelings of having what you want now. Embody it, see it, feel it and open up to it so you feel completely comfortable with that new energy.
To support you with these steps I recommend using a few tracks from my meditation album Guided Meditations for Inner Transformation.
Use Track 5 “Embrace Your Emotions” to help you with clearing out those old, low level emotions that are blocking you.
Use Track 10 “Manifest Your Desires” to magnetise what you want towards you and embody the feeling of it now.
Before I start today’s post, give me a moment to breathe a sigh of relief. I am beginning to feel that something is shifting. New things are being called forth and amazing possibilities are being born. And without wanting to seem ungrateful – it feels about time!
My past few months have been big, to say the least.
They have entailed change, upheaval, shedding, clearing out, speaking up, standing my ground, letting go, releasing and embracing what makes me uncomfortable.
Several significant relationships in my life ended, my home environment totally changed, many aspects of my business got a massive shake up, I was forced to let go of many ways of being and all in all life got turned on it’s head.
There were times where things felt so intense that I wondered how I was going to get through it. But, you know what I am still here. I am still showing up and standing strong.
And despite all of the pain, I feel like my heart is more open that ever.
These months of clearing out been a profound experience of creating space. And I have been left with a lot of it. In fact my life is spaciousness galore right now!
I feel the space within me, and I see it in my world around me. This space has been created for a reason. It has been created to make room for what is true, real and right for me.
It is as though someone drove through my life with a bulldozer, and cleared out everything that was not meant to be there.
Now all that is left is a big patch of fresh, alive, vibrant soil waiting for something to be planted.
Over the past few months, behind the scenes I have been sowing seeds, and I am finally beginning to see the fresh, green seedlings shooting through the surface.
And I can feel the shift. Can you? There energy has definitely begun to move in a new direction.
Calling in the New
As I dust myself off and stand back up, I am ready to face the next step of the challenge – calling in the new.
I am ready for the new shapes and forms that these areas of my life will take.
Some areas are undergoing make-overs while some areas are being completely re-born.
While the big picture is still being revealed to me, I feel an eager sense of excitement of what is about to come. I have no idea what it is, but I get the feeling it is going to be good.
Over the coming months you will see a lot of new things coming from this neck of the woods. There are surges of creative energy pumping through my veins and I am riding the wave at full force.
A few months ago, I have had numerous projects in the works which had to be sidelined and placed on hold while I navigated this turbulent time.
But there is new energy here to support them.
They are ready to move forward and I am itching to release them to you!
1) A MEDITATION ALBUM
The first sparkly new product you will see is a Meditation Album (which I hinted to you about on Instagram).
A few weeks ago I spent an awesome day at a recording studio recording gorgeous guided meditations tailored to the areas that I know many of us seek support with.
I am currently in the throws of mixing together my audio with some beautiful music and this should be ready to release in a matter of days!
2) MY FIRST LIVE EVENT
The second new-release is my first live event!
The desire to run these events have been bubbling inside of me for months, and I finally feel ready to say yes and dive in.
Sydney-siders pencil the evening of Friday the 6th of December in to your diary!
My intention is to run these events monthly and to create a space where we can regularly come together, experience a beautiful meditation and share some soulful wisdom. Each month I will have a different topic to discuss with you and I will also guide you through powerful practical exercises so you can get a tangible experience of what I am sharing.
The topic for the first workshop is Living A Heart-Driven Life and it is going to be such a beautiful conversation. Tickets will go on sale this week (and please note there are very limited numbers of them) so stay tuned!
- New Mentoring options for those of you wanting to work 1:1 with me
Disclaimer: I am learning a lot about divine timing. So, while I would love to announce that you will be seeing these things soon, I am learning that not everything happens on my time! So, bear with me as I allow myself to be guided by the plan that is being unfolded through me.
All I can say is phew. It has been a wild ride over the past few months, but I am now finding my feet.
There are super exciting things in store and I look forward to sharing them with you.
Are you feeling the shift? Tell me what new things you are now calling in to the space that has been created!
Today, I speak with a beautiful friend Vienda Maria who is a lifestyle coach and writer and author of The Gypset Recipe Book. In today’s episode, Vienda introduces us to the Gypset Mindset which is all about freedom, living life on your own terms, listening to your intuition and taking risks to follow your dreams.
In today’s super inspiring episode we discuss:
Exactly what the Gypset mindset and lifestyle actually is, and how you can live it
How you can begin to make the the shift to live life on your own terms
The lifestyle that Vienda lives and how she runs a business while travelling the world
How to live in the flow and release the need to structure + plan
Why fear is a good thing and how to overcome thefear of the unknown + uncertainty
Listen to Episode 10 below:
Do you want to win a copy of Vienda’s new ebook The Gypset Recipe Book?
This beautiful book is jam packed with 33 delicious gluten and sugar free recipes and is accompanied by gorgeous travel stories and insights from Vienda’s gyspsetting life.
To win a FREE copy, just head over to Vienda’s Facebook or Instagram page and hit LIKE and then leave a comment below telling us how you would like to bring more freedom and intuition in to your life!
This post is for those of us that have a tendency to retreat from the world when life gets a bit tough. We like to handle our challenges inwardly and on our own. We find it hard to ask for help. We tend to hide our vulnerabilities and would rather wait until we are ready to show a brave face to the world. We withdraw and at times shut down when we are challenged. We take time out. We get quiet. We process.
This has been my default way of being for several years, and in many ways I actually feel it is a quite a strong and beautiful quality.
But there is a fine line that we walk when we take this approach.
Yes, it can make us self-sufficient and empowered. Yes, it can mean we develop a powerful ability to dive deep in to challenges and grow from them. And yes, it means we show up for the beautiful inner work rather than distracting ourselves with external stimulation.
However, if you are anything like me, the more I do this, the more it becomes a very comfortable way of being. Sometimes we don’t realise that we are actually shutting down and closing off.
Instead of opening up and feeling, we are in fact building walls around our heart. We are creating inner barriers. We are closing ourselves off from receiving the love, support and beauty that is waiting to flow towards us, if we will only let it in.
Stay open when you are challenged
October has been a tough month for me. Lots of challenges have arisen externally, and seeing I have been surrounded by so much uncertainty, I have found myself retreating to the comfort of my inner world. The external world has felt scary so I have found safety and familiarity within myself and within what I know.
One of my biggest challenges in October was that a significant relationship in my life came to an end. The beautiful thing about this relationship was that it was the one place I was unable to shut down.
With this person I was forced to open up, share and connect. He was a phenomenal teacher for me and it was the first place I learnt to feel safe being vulnerable, to give and receive love wholly and completely, and to communicate my truth even when I was terrified of how it would be received.
When he would notice that I was closing off, he would sit me down, probe me with questions and then wait patiently until I was ready to speak. When I went in to self-protection mode and put walls up around my heart, he would sense it and call me out on it. When I went ‘internal’ and wanted to solve a problem in my head he would support and encourage me to talk it out and express what I was feeling with others.
Don’t retreat to a place of comfort
So, without him in my life at the moment I have fallen back in to my comfort. I have not wanted to write on my blog, to connect on social media or interact with my community. I have at times not answered phone calls from friends or loved ones. And some days, I have spent the entire day curled up in bed with a book, almost unable to face the world.
I have realised that I now need to be the person for myself who pushes me to open up when I most want to shut down. I have to be the one to call myself out, to stretch myself to speak up, to push myself to connect and ask for help.
And that was the feeling that called me to write this post. To not wait to write until I felt better, but to write whatever I am feeling, right now.
Tear down the walls around your heart
There is so much power in being willing to share ourselves with others, in the times when we feel the most vulnerable.
To be willing to admit we need support and we cannot do it on our own. To let people see we don’t have our shit together all the time.
To be real.
I want to keep opening.
I want to keep facing the world no matter how many challenges it throws at me.
I want to find the inner strength to stand in the face of it all and know I will be ok.
I want to be real, authentic, honest and true to myself.
I want to stretch myself to open my heart even when there is fear, so that I can keep showing up as the person I want to be.
Be aware of those moments when the walls come up around your heart. It is a dangerous time.
You close off from love. You close off from support. You close off from connection.
It is in the moments where we most want to close off that we must open. We must do the opposite of what fear is telling us.
We must resist the need to self-protect and instead make ourselves more vulnerable than ever.
Keep opening. Keep sharing. Keep asking for help. Keep showing up, no matter what.
We are all in this together. You don’t have to do it alone.
I look forward to hearing your thoughts on this post.